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Yielding fatherhood sometimes means sleeping on the job!

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High Expectations

As a father, I know my son needs to see me as the best possible father. Being a social worker, I also know it is my societal duty to present fatherhood in a way that helps other fathers. I read a piece that made me question a few things and wonder about fatherhood for all men. Another great father, Lee (@anordinarydad on twitter) , wrote ?Giving Dads Like Me A Bad Name.? The article is in no way disrespectful to stay-at-home dads but he asks a question about stay-at-home dads setting the bar to high for working fathers. I thought today would be a great day for me to begin yielding fatherhood from my point of view, as a stay-at-home dad.

Yielding Fatherhood ? Me, Myself & I

If I am going to start yielding fatherhood I want to start by telling you something about myself. When you are a child abuse investigator you will meet the worst of humanity and some of the best. It is in meeting the worst you find out what type of person you are.?I no longer work because I couldn?t watch the neglect, abuse and horrors I saw children go through. When I discovered I was going to have a child my heart and my mind couldn?t take what I saw or knew happened in the world. In some ways, today?s working father?s have a lot more guts than I ever will, they are able to live in both worlds and I walked away from one.

I can only speak for myself and what I know about being a stay-at-home dad. I write, tweet and talk about the positives of being a stay-at-home dad and father. I know when I was an active social worker positive role models was one of the things missing in many father?s lives. It makes me share a lot more of the positives of fatherhood, the good experiences. I am human though and trust me I am not perfect (if you don?t belief me feel free to ask my wife) In yielding fatherhood, I think you need to hear a few things I don?t always write about.

Dad won?t know it?s me talking about his blunders!

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Blunders Uncovered

1. Challenges ? I have a 3-year-old son and both of us have a wonderful gift of testosterone. My son uses the phrase, ?I win? (he probably learned it from me) and unfortunately, both of us to want to win.?Being a not perfect dad, upon occasion, I will yell, he will stomp off, I will yell some more and he will ignore me (we actually do have a good relationship overall though)

2. Tired ? Men that work all day come home tired and they have to make that extra effort to become the family man. Being a stay-at-home dad is just as hard. I have fallen asleep on the couch in the afternoon and evening for a few minutes. It has never been intentional but I have done it.

3. Cool things to do ? I am lucky to do interesting things with my son. Such as the time, I wanted to take him to the museum. We got to the museum and I realized I forgot the diaper bag. I knew we would probably need it, so with a screaming child in the backseat we traveled back home to get it. He didn?t stop crying until we got back to the museum and walked to the admission desk. He did start crying again when I discovered I had left my wallet at home.

Yielding Fatherhood

I know that any man, working or non-working,?that loves a child has the potential to become the most important man in that child?s life. Working father?s may come home tired but they have the best of two worlds. They have a family they love and a job they might love. If you are a working father and ever asked yourself, ?Am I influential in my child?s life?? ,you have asked a question that most men would never ask themselves. I know that makes you a good father because you worry about it. I worry that my son could see me as a failure because I don?t work outside the home.

I believe that no father is a failure if they try to become the best dad possible. Our children only want fathers that care for them, love them and are there for them. Yielding fatherhood means to me there is value in all dads. Children don?t want ?supermen? they just want a father.

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No parent is perfect. Have you have worried that you aren?t influential in your child?s life? How did you resolve the issue or have you? Parenting is about learning from each other and sharing ideas on how we can all realize we have value. Be sure to tell me in the comments!

Be sure to check out Andi-Roo at?TheWorld4Realz?who is writing about a month of controversy in the?A to Z +1 August blogging challenge?with me! Today is the letter ?Y? for Yielding Fatherhood To Working Dads

Tags: challenges, positive role models, social worker, stay at home dads, stay-at-home dad, testosterone

Source: http://www.dadblunders.com/2012/09/04/yielding-fatherhood-to-working-dads/

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